Trans-health.com, ran by Sherbourne Health Centre, has a series of DVDs that they give to patients to help them with many of the aspects of transition. This video shows, step-by-step, how to give yourself injections of your hormones.

The HRT Injection Video Guide

This is so important, given that most people have never had to give themselves a shot before- unless they are diabetic. So check out this video, and hopefully it can help you too.

Taking Care of Business: A DIY Guide to Self Injecting ‘T’ is an exciting and innovative one of a kind health teaching resource made by and for the trans communities. To date it has been well received by both the trans communities and health care providers. At Sherbourne Health Centre we regularly provide copies of the video to trans folks (including some trans women) who will be self-injecting hormones for the first time. It has also been an effective resource for friends/partners/lovers who administer hormone injections to people at home.

The DVD features a chapter selection menu so that individuals can easily review specific sections as well as a PDF injection guide. Although I am able to pass around copies of the DVD free of charge to individuals who need them and stop by the health centre, I am not always able to mail out copies to individuals that request them.

Due to popular demand, or rather geographically diverse needs, I have now posted Taking Care of Business on YouTube. I unfortunately had to edit it down a bit to meet their time restrictions and for all of you who participated in the project I have also edited out most of the credits.

We asked some trans men who have been through the process of transitioning while in a relationship for the best kind of support they would or could have been offered, and other helpful things to consider in a similar situation. (Note: Things are different for every person, situation and relationship. This is from the perspectives of four trans-identified people who offer up their own experiences as personal advice.)

Rudy is 25, Middle Eastern and identifies as a straight male. He had a girlfriend during his social transition at 22 (so no surgery or hormone usage at the time). They are no longer together but are still friends.

Evan is 27 and from Los Angeles. He realized he was trans* at 18, but didn’t start transitioning until he was 22. He is now married to a cisgender woman and identifies as queer, using male pronouns.

Leo is 26 and has been transitioning over the last eight months. He has been in a relationship with the same woman for four years, and she has been “extremely supportive.”

Simon* is 32 and began medically transitioning two years ago, although he identified as genderqueer/on the trans spectrum for the last 10 years. He identifies as a trans man. He was in a three-year, long-distance relationship at the beginning of his transition.

Q. When you came out and were beginning the transition process, what was your partner’s reaction and how did it make you feel? Was there something you would have liked for them to do better/different?

Rudy:  Well, she was very supportive—I was actually extremely transphobic before I came out. Of course, that was me internally not accepting myself.

Evan: I realized I was trans* when I was 18 while I was at college in San Francisco. My girlfriend at the time was really supportive with me becoming comfortable discovery what being trans. We broke up for a reason that had nothing to do with being trans*.

I lived in a gray area of genderqueer for four years too scared to transition mostly out of fear of the unknown. During that time I was in a on-again/off-again relationship with a girl that started off as a long distance thing but after two years she moved in with me. We broke up for many reasons one was she was very controlling and had problems with my genderqueer “stuff” i.e my deodorant or the fact that I wear boxers and men’s clothes. After we broke up I hit what I call the Trans Walls, where I needed to face the fact that was was not living and if I didn’t transition I was going to kill myself.

I met my wife about a year into my transition. When we met my wife identified as straight, I know that I am very lucky. When it comes to being with a trans person support is the most important thing. Also being realistic. With a transition all your relationship go though a transition, and sometimes lovers become friends. I understand why a lesbian  would not want to date me. I’m fabulous, but I look very, very much like a man. On the other hand I get why most straight woman would not want to date me.

Leo: Coming out to my partner wasn’t difficult at all. I kind of had one of those “thought out loud” type of moment. We were laying in bed about to go to sleep when I was thinking about how to tell her and it just came out. She turned and looked at me and told me that she was fine with it. She loved me for who I was, not my gender or what I had in between my legs.

Honestly, if I could go back and repeat that moment, I wouldn’t change a thing. In an awkward kind of way, it was perfect.

Simon: I began the transition process about six weeks before I told my girlfriend at the time. There were several reasons for this. First, I wanted to make sure that starting hormones felt “right” to me before I told a lot of people, particularly those with a much stronger vested interest in my gender/identity, like my girlfriend and my family. I had been debating about starting hormones for so long that I wanted to make it easy on myself to stop them if I didn’t like what happened, or if taking them didn’t make me feel any better. I was also a little worried about her reaction because I had a friend in college whose girlfriend broke up with him because she did not want to date “a man” and was a “lesbian.” I figured that because we were apart, dealing with that kind of reaction long-distance would be harder than if I could tell her in person.

Because my girlfriend and I lived apart, it was easy for her not to know. There aren’t many huge changes in the first few months, so there wasn’t too much physiologically for me to discuss, and anything I did want to chat about, I talked to my trans friends about. When I did tell my girlfriend, it was the first time we had seen each other in person in about four months. I told her over lunch while visiting her on the east coast. She took it well and didn’t seem too concerned at first. But she also is very much an internal processor, so even if she had been troubled, I’m not sure how much of that would have come out at first. She identified as queer as well, and had a history of dating cis men, so I think to her, the change was not threatening in any way.

I learned after we broke up that she was much more upset about my waiting to tell her than she initially let on. I was happy with her reaction, I suppose. She is not particularly outwardly-emotive, so I wasn’t expecting a lot of enthusiasm. She told me she supported me and that was what I wanted to hear. Had I known how upset she was that I had waited, I would have been able to better explain why I felt the stakes were so high and why I decided to wait.

Finding out someone you know is transgender, and either just starting or fully transitioned, can fill you with questions. If you’ve never been around someone who is transgender, it’s a whole new world and you are curious.

Most questions are understandable. However, there are some things you should probably not say. Unless you want to offend a trans guy- or just make them super uncomfortable.

Are you a girl or a boy?

Do you have…things?

She…I mean she back then…

Can I see?

Check out the entire video below and be sure to go to the FTRealM YouTube page to see more videos.

Let us know in the comments some of the “well meaning” things you’ve heard or been asked.

Now that you are on hormones, everything switches. You probably already have stopped shaving your body but now you have to contend with your facial hair. Of course for trans men, like cis boys going through puberty, seeing that hair come in is exciting and a huge checkpoint in growing into manhood. That doesn’t mean you aren’t going to want to keep it looking good.

Perhaps want to keep it shaved down until it comes in less patchy. Or once it’s coming in fully, you might want to shave the neck and the edges to keep it neat looking. Of course that is IF that’s what you want. As we all know there are no real rules to transition and how you present. Shave half of it if you like. Live your life player.

While there are tricks and tips to shaving your body, there are also tricks to shaving your face and skin care for men. So here is Skin Care with Ross checking in with a great video on everything you need to know about face shaving.

He covers skin prep, technique and aftercare that you were tragically not introduced to.

Let us know in the comments about your experience shaving. What mistakes did you make?

*I want to make clear that I know it would be preferable to have a video from a trans man demonstrating shaving. However, there aren’t many very good options for that out there. Most I found were poor technique, or poor quality. And most videos were less about how to shave as they were about the experience of shaving for a trans man. If you have any suggestions on videos with trans men, I will be happy to post them. Let me know in the comments.

Checkout Ross’ YouTube channel or his blog.

First reported in the Oregonian, Delta Upsilon and Delta Tau Delta have pledged to reach out in greater numbers to the LGBT community at their Eugene, Oregon campus. The two fraternities are joining along with a handful of fraternities across the nation in creating a movement to further acceptance. Notably, Xi Omicron Iota- a sorority at Missouri State University, changed their bylaws to accept anyone who “identifies as a girl.” And the national organization Sigma Phi Epsilon announced that they would be considering transgender men.

Henry Korman of Delta Upsilon stated that the fraternity wants to change the idea of “frat culture” and become more diverse and inclusive.

“There are people in the community who might not have a comfortable place, a social group where they fit in,” Alec Malnati, Delta Tau Delta chapter President, said. “I’m just really hopeful we can be that place for people.”

The two houses hold out hope that the other 17 fraternities on campus won’t be far behind and taking their lead.

And what a handsome man he is. Dat smolder doe.

Ty is celebrating two big years on testosterone, and all of the changes that have come along with it. The physical changes have really been amazing as I’ve followed Ty’s videos for a while now. To see how his outside has grown to match who he was inside is just incredible.

And can we talk about these muscles?

So check out his video and let us know what you think.

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